6 Reasons for Narcissists' Chronic Unhappiness
How do narcissists ignore so much good in their lives?
In most of my experiences with narcissists, my optimism was devalued and criticized; they seemed fundamentally incapable of looking at anything positively.
However, histrionics — the invisible children of narcissists — and borderlines — the scapegoat children of narcissists — both had a tendency towards hope and gratitude, even as we experienced some serious heartbreaks, mental health challenges, and horrors.
Yet, narcissists could have social privilege, wealth, looks, power, many material possessions, multiple attractive and loving partners and friends, and they’ll still tell you that THEY’VE HAD THE WORST LIFE EXPERIENCE EVER.
I’ve been through a lot myself — from the suicide of my first love to the drugging and weeks-long rape from my neighbor, life hasn’t treated me gently.
But I often lose patience listening to narcissists’ tales of woe. I think, what kind of person would I be if I focused solely on my victimhood and not at all on the astonishment and miracle of my survival and growth?
How could I ignore all the blessings, like travels, art, life experiences, pets, nature, and spiritual and intellectual growth?
I often wondered: how do narcissists ignore so much good in their lives?
Why are they so PERSISTENTLY unhappy?
If I, like them, couldn’t feel the pain of others as if it was my own through empathy, that would alleviate SO MUCH PAIN in my life.