Borderline, What Did you Mean to a Sociopath? Sociopath, What Did You Mean to a Borderline?
The answers are in True Blood's metaphor of the vampire and the fae.
My mother, a sociopathic woman who I inhabited the scapegoat child role with, raised me on vampire stories.
She had an extreme sympathy for vampires; she could be near tears thinking about their hopeless plight, how they long for warmth and love but can never marry a human — lest they want to either be guilty of killing them or turn them into a vampire with them.
She sometimes seemed to favor that story — turning the human you love into an immortal bond against their will.
Love for these stories was a rare bond I shared with my mother.
Plot twist: they were the metaphors that eventually helped everything make more sense to me about my trauma bonds as a borderline with sociopaths.
My mother crying over the vampire’s plight eventually made me understand why a woman who was so cold and had no affection with her sociopath husband would have an obsession with romance fantasy novels.
But it’s the vampire classic True Blood that helped me fully understand the entanglement of the narcissist and the borderline.