Is Jay-Z a Narcissist?
You have 100 problems now, Jay-Z.
Analyzing his statement, his career, and his personal life for clues
Jay-Z has recently been named in a civil lawsuit that alleges he sexually assaulted a 13 year old girl in 2000 alongside one of his long-time best friends, P. Diddy.
As Kendrick Lamar rapped in his song “Not Like Us,” predators move in flocks. Sex trafficking of children in America is a booming business due to our widespread mental health crisis, and, in order to keep it afloat, rich and powerful people must band together and reinforce each other’s narcissistic masks.
Narcissists move in flocks because they can’t stand alone: they aren’t strong enough, they aren’t courageous, they’re frauds, and they have NO MORAL HIGH GROUND TO STAND ON. (If a narcissist comes for you with their flying monkeys, you need to recognize that they’re telling you how much power you have on your own and how much they fear your power).
This is why one of the most lucrative operations of sex trafficking that was ever busted in America was orchestrated by Jeffrey Epstein, a billionaire with ties to princes, politicians, and presidents.
When P. Diddy was arrested — after a slew of allegations of drugging and assault along with a video of him beating his former girlfriend, Cassie, in a hotel — I wondered when we’d begin to see some of his former associates fall.
Not so surprisingly, one of his best friends in the world — the only person Diddy said was allowed to call him by his real name of Sean— has been entirely mum about the man he proudly stood beside for decades.
Beyonce and Jay-Z both have a habit of being extremely careful about being in control of their own narratives. Both rarely appear on any interview circuit anymore, and when we do see glimpses into their lives, it’s through their own productions of documentaries or in interviews with trusted wealthy associates, like Oprah.
The silence of P. Diddy’s friends speak volumes to his guilt: for someone known to host parties for the richest of the rich with the opulence of a Gatsby party, his fall from his pedestal revealed a man who has not a single influential ride or die friend in the world.
Like many Americans, Jay-Z and Beyonce have been a soundtrack to my life, and Beyonce’s confidence and power have also served as an inspiration. I’ve seen Jay Z in concert three times.
However, this tragic allegation is a common pattern within our culture that shouldn’t surprise us.
In a culture built on patriarchy, genocide, slavery, and trauma, it’s no wonder we have a mental health crisis of narcissism spreading through our family trees. And since narcissists pursue power, they’re who you’re going to find at the top of every aspect of American life — from our churches to our politics to our entertainment.
We’ve watched beloved pop stars unmasked before, and for many, it’s too painful of a cognitive dissonance to confront. It is difficult to hold both their love and admiration for the celebrity’s narcissistic mask alongside the truth of the celebrity’s shames and abuses.
From Bill Cosby to Harvey Weinstein to Woody Allen to Michael Jackson to R. Kelly — over and over again, we have to deal with the grief of losing our beloved shared fantasy to the reality of our star’s cruel abuses.
We can’t heal until we break our trauma bonds, however, and that includes our trauma bonds to celebrities, as we subscribe to their shared narcissistic fantasy and worship them.
The truth is humans are complex, and celebrities aren’t immune to the mental illnesses that affect the rest of us. We should use them as examples that show us both the dangers of ignoring NPD as well as the fact that narcissists, like everyone else, are neither perfect nor ALL BAD. That’s split thinking.
It’s possible for someone to be be extremely talented and creative as well as extremely SICK.
It’s possible for us to have compassion for the pain that caused their sickness while also holding them accountable for their behavior and giving justice to victims.
It’s possible to love them and also create boundaries to their powers and exploitations.
But false accusations are also a real thing — narcissists especially are guilty of choosing scapegoats and smearing them. A famous example was the famous borderline, 2Pac Shakur, whose empathy was so envied that he was surrounded by narcissists who continually attacked him until he was murdered, so it’s wise to always be thoughtful in examining these cases.
Still, being thoughtful and cautious does not, and should never, mean ignoring, silencing, bullying, or attacking trauma victims.
When a person lacks emotional empathy, this means there’s nothing that makes them feel the pain of others as their own, so they can do anything to victims without guilt. Because narcissists are overly sensitive, entitled, and angry, their abuses are often wildly extreme and disproportionate. They seek to break strong and empathetic people, because those people are a threat to their grandiosity and sense of being the “best in the world.”
A person with empathy is someone who exposes their grandiosity as false who also has the potential to unmask them. Narcissists see empathetic people as competition and a threat to be eliminated or controlled/brainwashed. So, even though narcissists like to fantasize they’re like Batman — only targeting “bad guys” for abuse — that’s part of their delusion. They most frequently target the innocent and vulnerable.
After the allegations were made public, Jay-Z released a rare public statement.
It was so unprofessional that I genuinely thought it must be fake news: he obviously didn’t have it written by a lawyer — or even vetted by one — before putting it out, which suggests he was in a PANIC.
The exclamation points, misspellings, and name calling in his frantic tone also reveal someone deeply rattled.
But is he guilty?
Let’s take a look at it more closely, along with some of the red flags in Jay-Z’s long and successful career.
1. His father & His Childhood
The foundation of any Cluster B disorder comes from child trauma. All Cluster B personality disorders are manifestations of cPTSD. It’s when the trauma was ongoing and happened before your brain was properly developed enough to process shame and grieve.
Therefore, the trauma is so deeply engrained in us that our trauma responses become a part of our personality.
Each Cluster B disorder manifests from which role we had in the narcissistic toxic family system: golden children get NPD or ASPD; invisible children get HPD; and scapegoat children get BPD.
To survive our childhood pains, we generally do so through staying firmly planted in the first stage of grief: DENIAL.
Jay-Z is, without question, a product of child trauma. This was not only true within his family system — his father abandoned him when he was 11 — but it was true in the cultural sense. He was born into poverty in the racial ghettos created to further oppress our country’s cultural scapegoats: black people, ancestors of the formerly enslaved.
Do you think slaves in America had some issues with child trauma that might spread generationally?
(When child rape is legal and children are torn from their parents arms and sold like a product, “issues” would be an understatement. Even after freedom, slavery was replaced with terrorism from police and the KKK. We have never invested in meaningful healing in our communities who suffered from the sociopathic human traffickers who founded our country, and we should be ashamed of that).
Therefore, our communities have widespread issues with Cluster B disorders, as all communities who have experienced genocide or trauma experience. The roots of Cluster B disorders in Europeans can be traced to things like plagues and famine. And, as many Americans aren’t aware because our history classes are whitewashed propaganda, early colonizers kidnapped and enslaved white people as well as black people. They only stopped doing the practice because white people and black people and natives were banding together to revolt. They figured if they gave all white people “a little” power and privilege, then they’d be able to control all of them through divide and conquer, which is still an effective tactic that sociopaths use on us today.
Jay-Z’s father is a Jr., the mark of a golden child, and his name shares the same meaning of his father’s name: “a gracious God.”
Sean Combs, who happens to share the same name as Jay-Z, was golden childed by his mother, Janice, whose name also means “a gracious God.” (Narcissists have a God complex).
Aside from this pattern, Jay-Z shows the patterns of behaviors that people with NPD/ASPD suffer from: he sold drugs from a young age and he even shot his own brother at the age of 12 years old.
Furthermore, Jay-Z has been candid about his father’s pain in his music. In a song to his father, he raps, “From stories I heard, I’m just like you./Must’ve been some pain in your past too./Must’ve been a karma that was past due./Must’ve been an energy that passed through.”
He’s clearly talking about generational trauma, and he’s referencing the notion that the “sins of the father” will have punishments passed down from God for generations.
2. His rap career
Jay Z’s career has changed a lot since his youth. The lyrics of his later albums show much more accountability (he discusses his regrets in cheating) and thoughtfulness in internal reflection.
But younger Jay-Z wasn’t known for that. He was known for what most rappers were known for — with the exception of 2Pac — misogyny and partying. Like a narcissist, he regularly claimed, “Make room for the motherf****in’ greatest!”
One of his most enduring songs is “Big Pimpin,” a song he has claimed to regret after the birth of his first daughter:
“You know I thug ’em, fuck ’em, love ’em, leave ‘em
’Cause I don’t fucking need ‘em
Take ’em out the hood, keep ’em looking good
But I don’t fucking feed ‘em
First time they fuss I’m breezing
Talking about, “What’s the reasons?”
I’m a pimp in every sense of the word
Bitch, better trust and believe ‘em
In the cut where I keep ‘em
’Til I need a nut, ’til I need to beat the guts
Then it’s “beep beep” and I’m picking them up
Let ’em play with the dick in the truck
Many chicks wanna put Jigga’s fists in cuffs.”
Does he sound like a man with emotional empathy?
Does he sound like a man who sees women in their humanity or does he see them as sexual supply?
I wonder…why would so many women want to put him in cuffs?
FOR WHAT CRIME, exactly????
Furthermore, since most narcissists are named after their parent in some way, and that parent was their first experience of abandonment and heartbreak, narcissists very commonly take on an alternative name or nickname.
In addition to crafting the false self, they give their ego a new name.
Many narcissists in my past went by nicknames, their initials, their middle name, or a new name of their choice altogether, generally of someone they admired (mirrored). Many rappers who are named after their parents have done this: Lil Wayne, Eminem, 50 Cent, Dr. Dre, Snoop Dog, P.Diddy, and Travis Scott all go by names they’ve given to their alter ego.
Rappers like Lil Wayne and Eminem have even been candid that they gave themselves new names because they hate their fathers who abandoned them.
And Eminem has always told us that we have NO IDEA who Marshall really is, and that “the real Slim Shady” will never stand up.
2Pac, the exception to this rule, had a father who was a Jr. and was named after someone who died tragically — this makes him a scapegoat child, a borderline. This is why his music is so deeply compassionate, and it’s also why his career was so short, as his “friends” consistently turned on him by targeting him for murder.
3. His relationship to Beyonce and their kids
This has always been a huge red flag to me about Jay-Z: he met Beyonce when she was 17 and he was 30.
They CLAIM they were friends for a whole year before they ever dated (to ensure that everyone thinks she was 18). I highly doubt that. If anything, Jay-Z spent that year grooming her.
Beyonce’s father and grandfather are both named Matthew Knowles, and her father cheated on her mother for many years, even fathering another child with another woman. She trauma bonded and married a man just like her dad.
Her mother is also the daughter of a Jr., given a common name: a classic histrionic. Histrionics golden child their children also, creating next generation narcissists. Beyonce is her mother’s maiden name, which makes her the golden child, a narcissist. (She has an alter ego too: Sasha Fierce is the false self).
Beyonce experienced a repeat of what her mother experienced: her husband cheated on her and lied to her. But, true to narcissist form, she couldn’t leave him. She couldn’t stand to break the shared fantasy. Narcissists often date other narcissists and are too codependent on the shared fantasy to leave them. She, instead, wrote one of her best albums: Lemonade.
But, trust and believe: she knows exactly who her man is.
Furthermore, there was an unnamed female celebrity in the room WATCHING in this lawsuit. The reason female narcissists don’t mind when their narcissist partners are predators is because they lack empathy and they’re predators too: they don’t even have empathy for their own children, so they certainly won’t for anyone else’s.
They also don’t see it as sex: they see it as what it is — internally destroying a child.
It’s in the narcissist’s best interest that all children are destroyed internally: this way, no one can grow up to be BETTER THAN THEM: their biggest fear. Spreading mental illness and indoctrination — as well as glamouring and conning people with their mask — is key to their power and survival as their false selves.
And that satisfies their need for sadism supply, which they get high off of, because THEY were internally destroyed as children, so they’re HUNGRY for revenge. This is how they project their pain into others rather than ever heal it.
We saw their family toxicity play out as Solange defended her sister and physically attacked Jay-Z in an elevator.
Histrionics and borderlines are VERY protective over our narcissist siblings, despite being abused by them. It’s a very STRONG trauma bond and we can feel how fragile they are.
Beyonce golden childed Blue Ivy — their names slant rhyme, and four (IV) is Beyonce’s favorite number, because it’s her birthday.
They also have a scapegoat child — Rumi, named after a poet who is said to have died “of physical exhaustion and grief.” Their son is an invisible child — Sir, given a name so common that it’s not even a name, just a generic title given to all men.
This is why we’ve seen Blue Ivy in the media and at every award show so often since her birth, but we rarely see the other two at all. She’s being groomed for stardom and shoved in our faces. The others exist for negative supply: a place to put their shame.
Those two children are just a blood supply for the three vampires to feed on.
(In their recent Lion King interview, Rumi crashes it to hug her mother. If you watch carefully, you can see what the scapegoat experience is. Beyonce can barely hide her disdain in her voice as she says, “Somebody wants to join.” She looks like hugging Rumi is a chore. Blue looks at Rumi and rolls her eyes. That’s the scapegoat experience in a narcissistic family. Within a few years, if it hasn’t happened already, Rumi will be suicidal and self harming).
The family is extremely toxic behind their masks of grandiose perfection and elitism.
Narcissist mothers are, like my own, notorious for knowing that their partner is a child molester and STILL STAYING WITH THEM. Many people have stories of being molested by a stepfather or father, telling their mom, and being punished for it, silenced, or forced to continue enduring it.
This is also a reason narcissists are more severely abusive to partner’s who have empathy: they’ve stalked you and they know you aren’t guilty of the things they are. They know you’re authentic. They know that if you ever unmask them — or if you’d known their true shames to begin with — you wouldn’t touch them with a ten foot pole.
I had self loathing as a borderline, but I have EMPATHY: when I discovered pedophilia in my partners, it was HORRIFIC and it was OVER FOREVER. Empathy won’t allow that behavior because it’s REVOLTING and painful enough for suicidal collapse.
That means…you’re too good for them.
That means, they aren’t the best in the world. You’re better than them. So they HATE you.
Sometimes narcissists’ denial runs wildly deep. I knew a narcissist woman who was in her 50s and in love with a pedophile who groomed her when she was 12 and he was 30. She was also molested by her stepdad. She didn’t know why she loved the man, and I said, “Because you’re trying to relive the pedophilia in your childhood but have it have a happy ending in which you’re loved and not hated.” She said she’d never thought of him as a pedophile because she was in love. But she was GROOMED.
Narcissists THINK like confused, traumatized children, even as adults. They can look past really obvious horrors and they can’t look in a mirror.
Narcissist mothers are THAT self loathing, codependent, and lacking in empathy that they sacrifice children to keep the fantasy of love in their unhappy marriages.
They weren’t kidding when they said they were Bonnie and Clyde. When a narcissist woman says “Ride or Die,” she truly means it, because she has no conscience or morals.
The outcome is often: Die. They die slowly and painfully in these awful, toxic relationships. They’re terrified of being alone and resistant to healing and introspection.
The relationships of narcissists are always parasitic in nature in the ugliest way.
The more power narcissist’s get, the more corrupted they become, and the more their God complex unmasks to be closer to Lucifer, but those marriages are HELL, despite all outward performances.
4. His wealth
Wealth in and of itself isn’t a sign of having NPD, but excessive greed is, as is the pursuit of power and control.
Narcissists can’t control themselves, so they seek to control others. Most fantasize about world domination, but very few actually strike gold enough to get there.
All billionaires should be scrutinized for sociopathy, because that kind of wealth hoarding amidst so much suffering and exploitation should keep a person up at night, and if it doesn’t something is VERY wrong.
Someone could make $2000 a day, every day, for 500 years, and they still wouldn’t have CLOSE to 1 billion dollars. That’s how much money that is. It’s not even possible for it to be spent for generations and generations.
If someone has money like that, they are also likely getting it through 1) exploitation of people’s labor, and 2) investment into the U.S. military complex.
Both of these require that you have no empathy for others.
You may say, “But they donate to charities! But they have charities! But they do some good things!”
All narcissists do.
That’s how they mask. That’s how they make people think they’re good people, how they operate COVERTLY. That’s how they make it so no one listens to their victims.
This is how they cause cognitive dissonance in those who idealize them.
This is why people as powerful as Jay-Z and Beyonce, who are descended from slaves and purport to care about racial justice issues, are completely MUTE on the subject of the genocide they profit from. They care about power, not people.
It’s also why Beyonce appropriated the look of the Black Panthers, an anti-capitalist, anti-imperialist group who, without question, would be against nearly everything she stands for.
Narcissists design their masks after their scapegoats who they envy and admire, but who they are fundamentally nothing like, lacking the integrity, morals, or authenticity.
Additionally, Beyonce and Jay-Z have been on a campaign to drag the Grammys for the awards she didn’t win. However, BEYONCE HAS MORE GRAMMYS THAN ANY PERFORMER IN HISTORY.
Yes, Lemonade should’ve won: that was a travesty, BUT…are they allergic to gratitude and humility? Her legacy and wealth are SECURE. She’s gotten PLENTY of awards. Why do they have a constant need to attempt to make us feel sympathy for awards she didn’t win years ago? (Narcissists are obsessed with winning and being “the best;” and they hold grudges for life).
5. His statement
In my experiences of knowing narcissists and watching how they react to being unmasked for crimes they are guilty of, his statement was so in line with narcissistic behavior that I do not question his guilt.
The tone alone was as panicked and unhinged as I’ve seen guilty narcissists react to being caught.
Here’s his full statement and my analysis:
My lawyer received a blackmail attempt, called a demand letter, from a “lawyer” named Tony Buzbee.
He begins by using the tactic of DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. Rather than reply in a measured and professional manner to deny the allegations, he comes out guns blazing, framing HIMSELF as the victim.
If this were true that he received a blackmail attempt, then there’d be evidence of it. However, he hasn’t released this “demand letter” and the lawyer for Jane Doe has asserted that she never demanded money. It was only a notice that he would be named in her civil lawsuit.
However, it must always be remembered that EVERYTHING narcissists accuse is confession. They pin their blame on their victims.
Jay-Z wasn’t originally named in her lawsuit, and the reasoning behind that is because….
JANE DOE HAS SAID THAT SHE WAS EXPLICITLY THREATENED BY PEOPLE IN JAY-Z’S CAMP.
A blackmail attempt to ensure silence and fear in the victim.
I’ll be honest: I know I’m a brave and vocal person — I have nothing to hide and nothing to lose along with a STRONG conviction for JUSTICE and human rights. I’ve already lost everything I loved and I’ve been through so much physical violence that my fear response is nearly nonexistent.
Still, I can imagine no world in which I’d be filing any lawsuit against two of only a handful of black billionaires on the planet.
This person is BRAVE.
(And that’s what scares him most…if narcissists weren’t cowardly people, they wouldn’t wear masks of false personas).
I once sued a college (and won, tyvm), and they were so wealthy and powerful that it was extremely hard and nerve-wracking to do. The college had EVERY LAWYER IN THE CITY on retainer in a 50 mile radius. I had to travel FAR just to find a lawyer to represent me.
People have no idea the lengths rich sociopaths go to in order to prevent any accountability or justice for victims, even in the form of financial compensation that would be no different to them than a regular person giving someone a dollar. They’ll pay a million lawyers before they’ll give their victims a penny: they’re THAT malicious and shame avoidant.
What he had calculated was the nature of these allegations and the public scrutiny would make me want to settle.
No sir, it had the opposite effect! It made me want to expose you for the fraud you are in a VERY public fashion. So no, I will not give you ONE RED PENNY!!
The next narcissist abuse tactic here is the Ad Hominem attack. This is a logical fallacy of distraction: it is when you attack the CHARACTER of a person rather than the argument being presented to you.
These allegations are so heinous in nature that I implore you to file a criminal complaint, not a civil one!!
Whomever would commit such a crime against a minor should be locked away, would you not agree?
This is when I was convinced of his guilt. As a rape victim, talking about my rapes is a major way I identify narcissists who are guilty of rape, because they can’t even talk about the rapes of OTHERS without outing themselves: their brains are working overtime to avoid the shame of what they bury and deny in their own behavior.
Narcissists will respond four ways to rape:
- They’ll say, if you didn’t put them in prison, then it must not have happened, because who wouldn’t put a criminal in prison? (Gaslight and lack of empathy)
- They’ll say, you must have done something to deserve it or you need to watch out for who you date, what you wear, or who you hang around with. (Victim blaming).
- They’ll say that you wanted it. (Gaslight and projection).
- They’ll say that you’re a liar and an evil person seeking attention. (Projection).
Victim blaming is much more than a cultural problem of ignorant people: it’s an admission of guilt and a red flag of narcissism. And yes, women can be guilty of rape too — many of the narcissistic men who become rapists were first raped by their mothers, as was the case with both my father and my stalker.
These alleged victims would deserve real justice if that were the case.
This is absolutely true. But as Jay-Z himself has said, he’s no dummy about the law: “See I ain’t passed the bar but I know a little bit, enough that you won’t illegally search my shit.”
First of all, NO CIVILIAN CAN PRESS CRIMINAL RAPE CHARGES, PERIOD.
ONLY A GOVERNMENT OFFICIAL CAN.
For a prosecutor to take a case to trial, they need to feel they can meet the burden of proof, which is very difficult without DNA evidence, with a wealthy and famous man, and with 24 years having passed since the alleged crime.
However, laws exist (for good reason) that allow people who were children at the time of their crimes to seek justice as adults in CIVIL COURT.
So, Jay-Z should know that no lawyer could press criminal charges: he’s being manipulative by even acting as if that’s an option.
Even so, our culture is so sick and toxic, that of the cases of rape that are brought to criminal court, 99.5% never see a single day in prison. This is another reason prosecutors think it’s a waste of time to prosecute for rape.
In a culture with a massive unaddressed mental health problem, the chances of finding 12 people without NPD for a jury who will all have appropriate empathy skills is about ZERO.
Your best bet is if your rapist is a poor man of color in a largely white area, because white racist rapists will be happy to scapegoat him.
When I was raped for several weeks by my neighbor, I believed I had enough evidence to imprison him — DNA, the microphone he put in my apartment, my journals he wrote in, the GHB he drugged me with in my Brita water filter, along with my very obvious drug withdrawls and sexual trauma. I went to the doctor and to the police and my apartment managers (who confided that his wife said he beat her), and I had a therapist and friends who could testify. He was also a poor Mexican with a criminal record since he was a teenager and I’m a white college professor.
I CHOSE to stop cooperating with police for two reasons: one is that I’m genuinely a prison abolitionist, and that hasn’t changed. I wanted him to get treatment, not trauma. I believe in breaking the cycle of trauma: narcissists believe in perpetuating it. Two — I ain’t passed the bar but I know a little bit — the time that a rape victim’s life is MOST IN DANGER is when they begin to seek criminal justice. And the system provides ZERO protection for victims.
I was severely traumatized, and I had to take a leave of absence from work, move cities, and attend to my mental health. I was homeless for two weeks with my cats running from hotel to hotel to escape him.
You don’t think that’s a bit…scary? Traumatic?
There are VERY GOOD REASONS that victims don’t report or push prosecutors and police to investigate for criminal charges.
(Just use your cognitive empathy if you can’t imagine how devestating that whole experience is — and then try to apply it to a person who isn’t rich or famous who was assaulted as a child).
By the way, a major reason narcissists target child victims and people of color is their disempowerment. They know they can GET AWAY WITH IT.
This lawyer, who I have done a bit of research on, seems to have a pattern of these type of theatrics!
Ad hominem attack once again — a distraction from his own accusations.
I have no idea how you have come to be such a deplorable human Mr. Buzbee, but I promise you I have seen your kind many times over. I’m more than prepared to deal with your type. You claim to be a marine?! Marines are known for their valor, you have neither honor nor dignity.
A veiled threat: the narcissist’s mask is REALLY SLIPPING now. Violence and threats are a sign that…
The NARCISSIST IS LOSING CONTROL.
When a narcissist is violent or threatening towards you, you need to recognize that now you have ALL the power. They’re DESPERATE.
My only heartbreak is for my family. My wife and I will have to sit our children down, one of whom is at the age where her friends will surely see the press and ask questions about the nature of these claims, and explain the cruelty and greed of people. I mourn yet another loss of innocence. Children should not have to endure such at their young age. It is unfair to have to try to understand inexplicable degrees of malice meant to destroy families and human spirit.
This is very self consumed, self pitying, and manipulative.
First of all, it’s not like Jay-Z won’t have A LOT of explaining to do to his kids.
Did you sit them down to explain your drug dealing? Have you explained Lemonade to them and “Becky with the good hair?” Did you explain how you shot your brother as a child or is every Thanksgiving just hella awkward?
Also, all children of narcissists see their parents frequently unmasked — we may deny and self blame in love for them and Stockholm syndrome, but we know what cruelties they’re capable of.
Secondly, he’s evoking his children to appeal to the empathy of healthy people. And that’s exploitative if he doesn’t exhibity empathy for children himself. P. Diddy has MANY victims, and he’s saying his “only” heartbreak is for his family? Lovely.
As a child of two sociopaths who also genuinely loved my parents, especially my father (who I was the invisible child of; scapegoat to mother) if he’d been outed for pedophilia with the neighbor children when I was a child, I don’t think my heart or mind could’ve handled it. I’m so grateful I didn’t figure it out until adulthood. He was also my sole financial livelihood for my family. Even as an adult, it was, and still is, catastrophic on my heart. It hurts me every day.
I hurt for him and I hurt for his victims and I hurt for my childhood self that wanted his love and I hurt for his childhood self that made him what he is. I hurt for my own family.
The scapegoat carries hundreds of years of grief that the rest of the family isn’t strong enough to survive.
I hurt for Jay-Z’s children too — but I do so because they’re victims of him passing on his unhealed generational trauma, just like I am.
Their family is a mirror of my own, and I always loved my family, even as they didn’t love me or treat me well.
My heart and support goes out to true victims in the world, who have to watch how their life story is dressed in costume for profitability by this ambulance chaser in a cheap suit.
Another ad hominem, but this one goes low. The “cheap suit” is a dig that says, “I’m richer than you. I’m better than you.” When narcissists engage in this behavior, it’s because they feel the opposite is true: the false self is collapsing and they’re facing their shame.
Their grandiosity is ALL fantasy. Their power is as flimsy as a house of cards.
And their “worth” is no deeper than surface appearances.
You have made a terrible error in judgement thinking that all “celebrities” are the same. I’m not from your world. I’m a young man who made it out of the project of Brooklyn. We don’t play these types of games.
This is when I knew we were listening to the narcissist’s TRUE SELF. Because whenever a narcissist finds themselves unmasked, in my experience, they begin to talk like a child.
I’ve heard them whine, I’ve seem them throw tantrums, I’ve heard speech impediments come back, and I’ve heard them repeatedly refer to themselves as a child, especially to assert that they’re a child who has SURVIVED a tremendous amount (which is true, but they survive by projecting their pain into others).
In what world, is a 55 year old man considered “a young man?”
According to the psychological research, the reason narcissists are frequently pedophiles is because they’re attracted to people who are the age that they feel.
Anyone older feels like a surrogate parent to them. And they only want to control and seek vengeance on their parents, which is why they marry for scapegoat supply, not love.
We have very strict codes and honor. We protect children, you seem to exploit people for personal gain.
So, now he’s claiming that every young black man in the projects has a “strict code of honor to protect kids?”
This is patently false, a pure gaslight. The logical fallacy being used here is hasty generalization. While, of course, not all people in the projects have NPD, this disorder is a HUMAN illness, not a racial one, and it presents in all races, all around the world, as a trauma response in children.
Many young black men abuse children. Jay-Z’s own father abandoned him to the street life. He didn’t protect him.
Only your network of conspiracy theorists, fake physics, will believe the idiotic claims you have levied against me that, if not for the seriousness surrounding harm to kids, would be laughable.
I look forward to showing you just how different I am.
He ends with another veiled threat. It’s not, “I look forward to proving my innocence,” it’s “I look forward to defeating you. I won’t go to prison like my best friend has.” It’s defiant and threatening, not confident.
6. His behavior after the allegations
I think this is arguably one of the most revolting displays of narcissism: the tendency to use young children as your shield.
My parents used me as a shield. As a scapegoat child, my good behavior and good grades made them seem like “good, normal” parents. My existence made both my parents’ mask of heterosexuality seem true, despite the fact that they never had sex or were affectionate with each other, sleeping in separate rooms.
Their kids existed as supply to help secure their masks and make their crimes invisible.
One day after the bombshell allegations, Jay-Z showed up to a Disney premiere shamelessly, cheering on their golden child alongside his wife (who is, of course, dressed in matching apparel to her golden child).
No shade, because Blue Ivy has talent, but she didn’t really earn that role: her parents are two of the richest black people in the world and are heavily invested in the Disney franchise for profit. As Jay-Z stood next to his daughter and both parents GUSHED at how PROUD they were of her achievements, I could only think the following:
Blue Ivy is the same age as the girl he raped in 2000.
As one girl gets put on a pedestal and spoiled rotten, another innocent girl had her whole personhood dehumanized, brutalized, discarded, and traumatized for life.
One girl serves as the shield to protect her father’s grandiosity, to make him seem like the doting, loving father; while another girl had to fight for her life and likely still is.
And yet, Jay-Z’s statement and his shameless smile continue to scapegoat her, to deny her even the most basic respect or compassion.
He twisted the knife further by saying, “My only heartbreak is for my family.”
He clearly sends a message to his victim: I AM NOT SORRY.
His self consumption is undeniable: at the VERY least, he could show compassion for his best friend’s victims. His friend’s violence against women is on camera.
But, conveniently, Jay-Z has no heartbreak for them. He only has heartbreak for himself. He has no guilt, no shame, no accountability — everything about this situation reeks of his narcissism and lack of compassion.
Jay-Z is no “young black man” who made it out of the projects:
Jay-Z is a 50 year old sociopathic pedophile who exploited his way to the top.
And his house of cards WILL come crumbling down, I promise.
It may just be Rumi who survives to blow the whistle on the whole toxic charade, if she survives her BPD. Praying for her strength, resilience, and awakening.
Collapse is the destiny of every narcissist who refuses to get help or face themselves in a mirror and make amends for their past. I’ve seen it end in tragedy as consistently as a computer algorithm.
Even if it’s only something that happens out of our view, behind the scenes — it still will happen, if it isn’t happening right now.
I suspect there are more victims who still haven’t received their due justice — and karma doesn’t play with men like Jay-Z.
No matter how much they smile like their lives — and masks — depend on it.
If we accept the premise that Jay-Z has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (I do, but you’re free to think what you want), then everything that this letter has accused is his pathological projection, his CONFESSION.
So, what has the sociopath confessed?
He blackmailed the victim.
He’s a fraud being exposed in a very public fashion.
He’s committed heinous crimes and should be locked away.
His victims deserve real justice.
He has a pattern of these types of theatrics.
He’s a deplorable human, with neither honor or dignity.
He has cruelty and greed, along with inexplicable degrees of malice meant to destroy families and human spirit.
His victims have to watch their life story is dressed in costume for profitability.
He thinks all celebrities are the same and they all are guilty of the same crimes and deserving of abusive consequences (projection).
He plays games.
He exploits people for personal gain.
Only his network of conspiracy theorists, fake psychics, will believe the idiotic claims he’s using to defend himself.
If not for the seriousness surrounding harm to kids, his statement would be laughable.
He isn’t different than Diddy at all.
Projection is the Achilles heel of any narcissist: if you listen carefully to what they accuse, they give you a full confession of who they are.
Then you understand why they hate themselves so thoroughly and why they need to craft a false persona to survive the trauma of what their childhood pain turned them into.
You have 100 problems now, Jay Z.
**UPDATE: Jay-Z's lawyers filed a motion to have this case thrown out. He also filed to have Jane Doe's identity publicly released. Both motions were denied.
The judge didn't mince words in her denial: she calls him out for ad hominem attacks on the lawyer's character and for a litany of motions that exploited the legal process, wasted judicial resources, and contained many inappropriate attacks on the plaintiff and lawyer.
She also highlights that while Jay-Z's lawyer claimed that the plaintiff's lawyer has a "chronic inability to follow the rules," Jay-Z seemed to be PROJECTING: his barrage of filings with no pre-motion filings show HIS inability to follow rules.
The attempt to deny the plaintiff her right to anonymity in such a personal case is exactly how abusers act when they're guilty to intimidate their victims: rapists know that other rapists will bully and threaten victims on their behalf as flying monkeys, and famous people have MANY blind flying monkeys who are trauma bonded to the fantasy of their celebrity.
These flying monkeys attack victims as a knee-jerk response to protect their own denials of shame and cognitive distortions, as well as to protect their trauma bond to celebrities. Victims who seek justice often face bewildering attacks from strangers, as I did--it's an extremely dangerous situation.
Furthermore, shortly after his accusation, headlines on Jay-Z were replaced with headlines of Beyonce's halftime performance on Christmas Day.
Who coordinates the NFL performances? Oh, it's Jay-Z.
Once again, he uses the spectacle and popularity of his wife and daughter to change the conversation and hide. Now, people are arguing about Beyonce's talent and the envy of her haters rather than talking about the morality or accountability of her husband.
The plaintiff suffers from PTSD, night terrors, a mood disorder, and frequent seizures as a result of her violent attack in childhood.
My memoir, This is a Story About Ghosts: A Memoir of Borderline Personality Disorder, is now available on Amazon.
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A.M. Champion is the author of Hunted Carrion: Sonnets to a Stalker (KDP, 2024), She Saints & Holy Profanities (Quarterly West, 2019), The Good Girl is Always a Ghost (Black Lawrence Press, 2018), Book of Levitations (Trembling Pillow Press, 2019), Reluctant Mistress (Gold Wake Press, 2013), and The Dark Length Home (Noctuary Press, 2017). Her work appears in Verse Daily, diode, Tupelo Quarterly, Prairie Schooner, Crab Orchard Review, Salamander, New South, Redivider, PANK Magazine, and elsewhere. She was a 2009 Academy of American Poets Prize recipient, a 2016 Best of the Net winner, and a Barbara Deming Memorial Grant recipient. She has degrees in Behavioral Psychology and Creative Writing.