The Biggest Mistake You Can Make with a Narcissist or Sociopath

Before discovering my disorder and unmasking my family, I had years of trauma bonding to sociopaths, starting in childhood. But aside from friends and lovers, I was a magnet to sociopaths due to the overactive empathy that borderlines feel as a trauma response — we are highly emotionally sensitive, and we feel the pain of others’ like its our own. 

Sociopaths yearn for that, but they also fear and envy it, so borderlines are common targets for abuse. They seek to prove to themselves that love is a weakness by destroying loving people. This makes them feel less insecure about their own lack of love and empathy. 

It reinforces their grandiosity to hurt people who love and care for their trauma. It also makes them feel Godlike, as if they can prove that loving people aren’t blessed or rewarded by becoming their curse. 

From bosses to coworkers to flying monkeys other narcissists recruited who I didn’t know, I’d found myself repeatedly with a sword in my back, Game of Thrones style. 

It perplexed me for a long time until I figured out these disorders and could understand the complex feelings that I felt from these people in the context of their neurodivergences with autism and ASPD. 

I’ve survived everything from being fired for reporting a minor who told me about their sexual assault by a colleague (as the law required me to do) to being drugged and repeatedly sexually assaulted for weeks.

It’s the typical life of a borderline born of sociopaths: our parents groomed us to be walking targets and to love the world’s most wounded people. 

People love true crime stories in which victims die, and the survival stories rarely get attention, though there are many of us. It’s the RESCUE stories that get more fantasy weaving, and there aren’t a lot of heroes or rescuers in the world. 

From my experience with some rough survival lessons, this is the BIGGEST mistake people make when entangled with a sociopath or a narcissist: